"Just like the lotus, we too have the ability to rise from the mud, 
                      bloom out of the darkness and radiate into the world".

What is the difference between awareness coaching and therapy?
Therapy is aimed at strengthening the ego, repairing the personality, so that a positive self-image, more grip and security is experienced. Therapy is appropriate when someone is totally confused and fragmented.

Consciousness coaching is not a therapy, it is aimed at dismantling the ego, seeing through the (survival)structure, but the coaching can have a therapeutic/healing effect. Consciousness coaching takes man beyond personality, beyond ego to our deepest essence, which is Love and Wisdom. A healthy ego, which is broadly stable, has the right breeding ground for a deep, essential transformation: transcending the mind. 

What is the ego?
The ego has many aspects such as personality, temperament, conditioning, identity, concepts and ideas. All these aspects give the feeling of 'this is me'. That 'I' has no center. If we look deeper into it, we discover that it consists of many selves and contradictory forces. That 'I' also needs to be fed with opinions and concepts (this is me, I think this etc.) to survive, because it actually has no ground to exist in reality. Without us realizing it, it is precisely this 'I' that deep down causes a sense of separateness, emptiness and alienation. And it is not easy to see through the illusion of the 'I', because it is also strongly empowered by society (that's how he/she is). Collectively, we all live from the ego, the 'I'. It is holding on to or attaching to this 'I' that causes so much tension, cramp and conflict. Despite that, we want to maintain this 'I' that by definition disappears one day... the day you die... or awaken.
True spirituality is realizing THAT what is always present, in all circumstances..., when you are alive and when you are not alive..., it goes beyond everything and leads to a real home, in ourselves, in existence with which we are one.

Awakening is not possible without Awareness (Consciousness). If Awareness is not (fully) recognized yet, we keep circling in the same patterns, we remain a prisoner of the mind, we remain entangled in situations, emotions and stories, we continue to avoid pain, partly because we have not learned to be present with the pain.
Without Awareness we continue to make efforts to improve ourselves or the other, with the result that we then strengthen the ego/mind; in other words, the energy is used to "change" or "become" instead of "being" and "surrender". I therefore always encourage people to practice vipassana meditation through which Witness Consciousness can reveal itself. Consciousness coaching works much more powerful when Pure Awareness opens up. Awareness coaching doesn't want to keep people trapped in the mind by fixing all attention on problems. Ultimately it is not about the content of the mind, but about Consciousness itself; you could say the Empty Mind in which the content appears; THAT should be the main focus.

Awareness coaching
When a spiritual path is walked, there are times when we are challenged by existence. In addition to the many tests that pass (do we respond from our structure or nature?), our shadow side will also play a role, which we don't always recognize because we project it on others. As the heart opens more and more, the knots that are still on the heart will reveal themselves in the form of strong emotions such as jealousy, hatred, meaninglessness, betrayal, not being heard, injustice etc. And it is not always easy to be present with that. Our tendency to flee, to avoid or suppress the pain is very strong (maya), as a result of which we continue to act or not act from the ego/from the (survival)structure, which is based on fear and shortage. Consciousness coaching wants to assist and guide people during this transformation process of transcending the mind and seeing through the illusory 'I'.

How does it work in practice?
The moment a question arises, a knot on the heart unfolds, a conflict arises where the view is missing, tendencies from the structure (neediness, the doer or slave driver, the controller, etc.) control/dominate us, strong pulling forces keeping us trapped in certain reaction patterns,  forces such as powerlessness, fear, anger coming loose in us etc. conscious coaching is a possibility.
I know all facets of the 'awakening process' from the inside out. Sensing ability, a sharp sight and empathy makes it possible to see through the structure of the other, from which a different perspective can be presented, from Light, Wisdom and Love. In addition to a different perspective, I will challenge your structure and support you to be present of deep pains and breaking deep tendencies and reaction patterns.

Coaching has no fixed structure. Sometimes people come for a number of sessions, sometimes people come for a single session and I see them again, for example, six months later. What is right for you unfolds on the spot. The consultations can take place via zoom/telephone or live at my home in Voorhout (near Leiden). Costs: 65 euros per session of 1.15 hours. People who can contribute a little more: 75 euros. And people with a large grant: 90 euros.

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